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Let Your Customers Declare Their Love

In the early 90s, Gary Chapman introduced the idea of love languages. The premise was simple: people give and receive love in different ways, and relationships improve when you understand how the other person actually wants to be spoken to.

Compliments. Gifts. Acts of service. Time. Affection.

Once you know which one matters most, you stop guessing. You stop wasting effort on the wrong signals. You communicate with intention.

Marketing is not that different.

Marketers spend enormous amounts of time and money trying to decode what customers want. What motivates them. What will make a message land instead of disappear. We invest heavily in data, platforms, and prediction models to get closer to the answer.

But here is the uncomfortable truth: the most valuable source of insight has been sitting right in front of us the whole time.

It is the customer.

Why Guessing Is the Expensive Option

In recent years, brands have poured massive budgets into third party data, behavioral models, and inferred insights. These tools have value. They help us spot patterns and trends. But they are still educated guesses.

Using third party data to understand an individual customer is like going to a music festival hoping to run into a friend. You know they are in the crowd somewhere. You know many people around them might look similar. But finding that one person in a sea of thousands is still a long shot.

You are close. But you are not precise.

And precision is what modern marketing actually requires.

The Power of Declared Data

Declared data is different because it removes the guesswork. It comes directly from the customer. Preferences. Intent. Feedback. Choice.

It is not inferred. It is not predicted. It is stated.

And yet, most brands dramatically underuse it.

Imagine if every customer interaction asked just one intentional question. Not a survey. Not a form with ten fields. One simple choice.

Picture an email showcasing two new products and asking the customer to click the one they prefer. That single click delivers insight you can use immediately. It informs future messaging. It shapes personalization. It can even guide product development.

That is not just marketing optimization. That is listening.

Even other forms of first party data fall short when compared to this level of clarity. Behavioral signals tell you what someone did. Declared data tells you why.

And that difference matters.

What We Are Really Trying to Learn

At its core, marketing is about understanding motivation. What drives someone. What they care about. What they aspire to.

No amount of tooling can replace a direct answer to those questions.

Declared data gives you sharper insight because it reflects intent in the moment. It allows brands to respond with relevance instead of assumption. It helps teams move from personalization theater to experiences that actually feel personal.

And when used well, it benefits both sides.

Customers see more relevant products. Smoother experiences. Less noise. Brands build smarter strategies, reduce waste, and create offerings rooted in real demand.

Talking to your customers is not intrusive. It is a service.

If you are not asking them what they want, there is a good chance you are not giving it to them.